A mother’s response to a text message asking if she knew her daughter was dating a black boy is being shared online for all the right reasons. Heather Boyer took to her Facebook page to address the unnamed nosey contact and any others who might have taken issue with her white daughter romantically involved with a black boy. It all began when her daughter changed her Facebook profile picture to her and her man, and some five minutes later someone questioned the relationship: "I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?".Her mum hadn’t known how to respond and spent “all day” trying to come up with a response. instead of sending it to the offending person, she uploaded the photo of her daughter and the boyfriend, and wrote the following caption:
Yes, in fact, I did know, but the colour of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does he define who is he is how he treats my daughter?
I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.
I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends. I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make the church a priority? None of the others has. He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not. Mama Boyer concluded the lovely post by saying that her daughter is with someone who "treats her like a queen".That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does. You can take a look at the entire Facebook post, below:
Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text ..” I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?”.It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that “may not know”.Yes, in fact, I did know, but the colour of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does he define who is he is how he treats my daughter? I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect. I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends. I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make the church a priority? None of the others has. He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not. So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does. The Facebook post received more than 180,000 comments and was shared upwards of a quarter of a million times.
Facebook user Christopher Johnson wrote:
It's sad that people today are so hung up on the colour of a person skin I've got four daughters one white one-half black and two that are half native American love knows no colour [sic]. Another person added: “What a great answer. I hope it hits home with everyone. They make a beautiful couple.”
“AMEN AND GOOD JOB MOMMA!!!!” another person wrote.
Yes.