We all know that one person who fakes their way through life. While you might secretly hope that you are wrong about someone like that, it’s not hard to tell when someone is being fake. But what are the consequences of such a relationship? For starters, when someone isn’t being themselves, you can never fully trust them. That means you can’t trust them with your information or problems, and you probably can’t share your good news with them either. Someone who is constantly pretending to care or trying to please people can take their toll on you. So if you suspect that someone in your life is faking it, think about moving on. Life’s too short to waste time on friends or even family members who pretend to care more than they do. Here are 10 signs of fake people.1) They make plans they don’t keep. Have you ever run into an old friend on the street and they instantly want to make plans to meet up for coffee? They are so excited to see you and talk about all the great things they are doing, but then… no call. No coffee. The call never comes. This is a real problem in society: people make commitments they never intend to keep. It’s a real testament to the type of person you are dealing with here.2) They are only around when it’s convenient for them. You might never hear from that friend on the street again until they need something from you.
They might call and ask you for a favour, or they will call and ask you to join them at the mall but you need to drive because their car is in the shop. Perhaps they invite you to dinner because another friend bailed and they already had reservations. See how that kind of pattern develops? It’s not good. You’re not at anyone’s beckoned call.3) They disappear when you need them most. Disappearing acts are common among fake people. They hang around when they get what they need from you, but the minute you need something from them, they bail. They can’t even fathom missing out on their lives to help another person in need. And it doesn’t have to be a life-altering need, it could as simple as asking for a ride to pick up your car at the service station. After all, you’d do it for them.4) They don’t listen when you talk. Oh sure, they pretend to listen but they are on their phones, updating statuses, or talking to someone else while they are sitting right in front of you. They don’t actually listen when they aren’t on their phone either.
They’ll space out or make some off-the-cuff comment that tells you they aren’t really listening. This is an exhausting kind of relationship and one you don’t need.5) They pretend not to be upset about things. Anyone who says they never get mad or angry at anything or anyone is full of it. Of course, everyone gets mad about something. But when fake people are deep undercover in their personas they’ve worked so hard to craft, it’s all part of the plan to make people think they are something they are not. Come on now, everyone gets mad at something!6) They are never around or available. You call and call and they never return your calls. You show up, but they are busy. You run into them on the street, but they are late for a meeting. They can’t come to your party because of work.
There’s always some reason or another about why this person doesn’t want to hang out with you, but constantly tells you they can’t wait to see you again. What’s up with that? It’s called being fake. They don’t have the balls to tell you they don’t want to be friends. Take the hint and move on.7) They talk about you behind your back. It stings when you find out that someone has been talking about you behind your back, especially when it’s someone you thought was your friend. Of course, we can never really know anyone: only what they allow us to see. But we hope that most people are genuine in their portrayal of themselves and their friendships. Sometimes, though, we are wrong.8) They are extreme hot and cold without warning.
They are nice one second and then bitter and mean the next second. This is a real sign that someone is fake because it takes a lot of time and energy to keep up a fake persona. This usually starts to crack after a while and simple conversations or events can set someone off that shows their true colours.9) They never initiate a conversation, coffee date, or hang-out. They don’t call you and invite you anywhere. They are always hanging out with other people, and they often neglect to engage you in the friendship. By all accounts, that’s not a friendship, so take stock and move on.10) They pretend to try to please everyone. Fake people are in a constant state of juggling balls that they can’t possibly keep in the air they will try to say yes to everyone because they can’t stand rejection or the idea that they might not actually be able to do everything they say they can. Instead, they promise things, say yes, and then many people are left out in the cold when the fake person doesn’t deliver. Keep an eye out for these kinds of people and start the process of replacing them with people you can trust and can get to know for real.